These days, the question, "How are you?” feels a little trite.
How are you given that we’ve been going through pandemic craziness and having our citizens at odds and fighting and everything coming to a head and what the heck is going on and what’s going to happen?
(Whew - thank goodness we don’t hyperventilate and pass out from typing run-on sentences.)
What’s been helping me is thinking of my mom’s old gas stove.
Stick with me here, because I think you’ll find this useful too….
There has just been so much to absorb this year. And a lot of people are doing things to make things better in our world.
I think all that’s great. Don’t tell anyone, but I’ve gotten a little teary every day watching and reading about people’s acts of kindness, selflessness, and willingness to speak up for others.
Feeling Small and Powerless
AND I also feel very small when I read those things.
Because there’s a part of me that feels very powerless right now.
A part of me that doesn’t know how all this is going to get better.
A part of me that feels like there’s really nothing I can do.
Because everything feels so dang big.
And I wonder if there’s anything one person can actually do to make a difference.
Is all that reserved for big wigs with more money, more influence, and a big platform?
Oy, just writing that out makes me feel even smaller.
Now, I have NO IDEA how to fix systemic problems, how to heal this divide, or what our world will look like in a few months. And for the love of all that is holy, if one more person talks to me about murder hornets…. 😉
What to Remember When You're Feeling Like Your Actions Don't Matter
But what I remembered the other day was that my mom has this old gas stove.
It does a really good job.
She cooked me dinner, chocolate chip cookies, and Jiffy-Pop popcorn on that thing for YEARS. It was the catalyst not just for nourishment, but also for so many of our happy family time memories.
But then one day, it stopped working.
The burner flames weren’t lighting, and the oven stayed cold.
Turned out, the little pilot light went out.
One little flame.
One little flame that ignited the rest of the oven to create all the goodness of the system.
And I realized that in our big world, that little flame is us.
It’s you and it’s me.
One little flame determines whether you’re going to have a yummy chicken dinner, or just sit and make do with a less satisfying plan B.
Lemme tell you, I’m not into making do right now.
It feels crappy, and it wears us down.
What We Deserve
We deserve better than that. And so does this next generation that’s watching how we - as individuals - respond.
So today if you’re feeling a little small, or powerless, or plain old exhausted from the chaos, I invite you to think about the pilot light.
Even if it goes out, it just takes one little match - one small act of kindness…
One moment of patience…
One act of love in our homes and communities…
To get that oven all warmed up and back to creating ripples of goodness for everyone.
If you're feeling a little small, powerless, or exhausted from the chaos, think about the oven pilot light. Even if it goes out, one little match - one small act of kindness.... one moment of patience.... one act of love.... gets everything warmed up and creating ripples of goodness for everyone.
EFT / Tapping Resources for 2020 Stress Relief
And if you’re looking for a little help in the process, here are some videos I made to get out of the funk.
Stress Relief Video Topics:
- Dealing with Uncertainty
- Work Stress During COVID-19
- Dealing with a Job Loss
- Feeling Lonely
- Kids Feeling Lonely
- Feeling Small and Insignificant
- Feeling Unmotivated
- Worried About my Kids
- Stressed about the News (also good for when you talk to folks with opposing political views that set you off)
- Scared about Staying Healthy with COVID-19
- Going Stir Crazy in Quarantine
The videos will help reduce stress levels so you can be more calm and clear.
Please let me know if there are any topics that you’d like me to cover. I’m going to be lots more of this because that’s what my personal pilot light can do.
Until next time!
Jewell “Jiffy-Poppin’ Again” Siebert